Learning to let go...

Hi guys, back after a while. In the past few days watched a lot of romantic movies, I mean conventional chick flicks and realised that they all depict a golden rule that they don't mean to highlight in the movies. Believe me, this is the only thing that sounds true and is close to reality not all the mush that is depicted and the overdose of romance. I am highlighting on one particular point.. "learning to let go". Its not as easy as it sounds and I myself have failed miserably at this so would not be in preaching mood regarding this, but it would be great if we learnt it and tried to adopt.


Love is one of the truest emotions known to mankind and one of the happiest because while "in love" one learns to give rather than receive and puts other persons interest above their own. In short one feels powerful than the beloved and feels the control in the relationship. This works both ways. However, I am not gonna harp about the bliss of love; I am here to discuss the aftermath of a breakup. People who have gone through a breakup in life will tell you it makes you feel vulnerable, used, in some cases dirty and in most cases a loser. Well, I am here to say that you need not feel this way. You know that you did nothing wrong in loving the person and did all things possible to make the relationship work, so you don't deserve to feel so low, in fact you should feel pity for the other person and learn to "let go".


Never use a breakup to highlight each others flaws and leave the other party bleeding. Instead acknowledge that the other person made you happy and whilst the relationship is over, you will always respect the fondly remember the times spent together. Treat a breakup like the death of a relationship; you cry and feel sorrow for the death, but its wise to have a memorial and highlight the "good times" rather than spiral into a unending pit of worst possible human emotions. Like you "let go" of the person who has died but use their memories as a memorabilia that would live with you forever, you must let go of your loved one and wish them good luck in the life beyond you. Wish them well. Do not, at any cost bad mouth the person in front of friends and close relatives, always remember you loved that person more than yourself and in the death you do not insult your love.


In the end, you must use every experience in life to improve yourself as a person and a human being and if the best experience of your life is making you take an extreme step or pushing you close to insanity then it somehow isn't fair to you. I read this quote in a book " Don't love anyone so much that you cant let go", I learnt its meaning recently.

So long....