Be proud to unearth the girl in you..

What picture comes into your mind when I say GIRL ... hold on guys, stop fantasizing.. I meant to ask, what qualities do you picture ? Love, compassion, empathy and all the related mushy qualities I bet. All of us have a girl inside us, thats right guys, you heard it absolutely right.. its up to us to unearth her and get her to the foreground. Don't go overboard and imagine a Bobby darling or a Rohit Verma, but try to get the point I am trying to make.

From the time we have realised the physical difference between girl and boy we have been told by our fathers not to play with girls. Even in the school, guys who play with girls are picked on by other "macho" guys and called names. Every time we feel vulnerable and emotional, we heard our friends jeer "Stop being a girl and get a pair". All this has led to a subconscious feeling that being a girl is bad. So much so, that girls have taken up being "a man" and are letting go of their feminine qualities to take on a "man's world". No one is realising that it is divine to be girl and a world without feminine qualities will be a dead, soul less world.

Let me clarify, I am not big on feminism and feminist movements because they do a lot of harm to womankind than to improve their condition, though I would confess to being fascinated and charmed by women. I often wonder what makes a woman take all kinds of hits (physical /emotional / financial) from her loved ones and still continue to love them. How often have we heard of a woman suffering domestic violence quietly and in hope that her husband / boyfriend will mend ways if she continues to love him. Being a man, I would not shake hands with any person who was abusive of me; but a woman not only stays under the same roof with him but also feeds him and "makes love" to him. Either she is dead inside or she has a heart as large as ocean to forgive all his mistakes. I would like to believe its the latter.

There are innumerable instances of women forgiving their husband who have strayed and taken them back, I can't really remember the last time I heard a man to this. But all this is changing and changing quite swiftly. Women are abandoning their feminine qualities and taking up qualities unique to men. I have heard now than ever before "If he can do it, so can I". All this is leading to a world with no love, compassion and empathy there is only cut throat competition. So ladies, don't mould yourself into men; just take some of the good qualities that men have and blend it with your best ones. Similar advice goes out to the guys, "there is a woman in each one of you.. just let her free".

Imagine a all man's world; every one means business, there is no place for emotions and each one is fighting with other in gathering incremental benefits. In contrast a all woman's world will be the one with love, compassion and empathy along with your normal inborn qualities. We need a woman's world now more than ever. The next time you see an emotional scene in a play, feel free to cry; next time you meet your loved ones, tell them you love them and what they mean to you; next time you see someone in pain try to empathise with them. Its not a sign of weakness to show some emotions and if someone calls you a GIRL... feel proud about it.

So long....

PS: Excerpts and instances taken from "Vagina Monologues".